Webcam Dating 101 – How to meet new Skype Chat Friends

How to meet new Skype Webcam Sex Contacts

How to find new Skype Sex Chat Friends

Relationships come in many shapes and forms. This is especially true of sexual relationships. Some people cherish meeting in person over a good meal and a nice glass of wine. Others might enjoy written exchanges with sexy pen pals. These days, a significant demographic is turning to the internet and its bounty of digital communication tools for anonymous sexual encounters with like minded strangers. The software of choice for digital sex enthusiasts is Skype. It allows for text chats, voice chats and of course, video chats.

Cybersex has many benefits. It allows people to explore their sexuality in ways that transcend real life encounters. Its anonymity offers an ecosystem where you can indulge your sexual fetishes with other like-minded adults in a consensual manner. Best of all, when you make use of the right security software, online sex can be practiced with a high level of security and privacy. Cybersex isn’t a substitute for healthy, real life relationships. But for many, it’s a means of fully exploring their sexuality and experiencing fetishes and kinks that might be out of reach in more traditional relationships.

Meeting that someone special for an online sexual relationship isn’t that difficult. You’ll find a list of sites below that specialize in the cybersex niche. But it’s important to carefully consider what you want from an online sexual relationship, and what you can offer others in their search for erotic fulfillment. This is a very important point, as it will play an important part in the crafting of a cybersex dating profile that will generate positive results.

Here are a few guidelines to consider before starting your search for a cyber sex partner:

  • Chances are, you’re online persona will be much more sexually adventurous that the real life you. That’s OK – this is all about sexual exploration. But set limits for both yourself and the people you’ll be playing with. Don’t be afraid to speak up if the sex play gets beyond your comfort zone.
  • Write down the top 5 fetishes you’d be comfortable exploring with your online sex partners. You’ll be needing this information for your dating profile.
  • Always keep your online sex life separate from your real life one. Resolve that what happens online, stays online. Accept that you’ll never meet your online play partners in real life. This can be difficult if some of your cyber sex partners live in close proximity to you. The beautiful thing about online sex is that you can choose potential partners from anywhere in the world, so if it helps, choose a partner from a different state or province, or better yet, a different country. Sex, after all, knows no borders.
  • Privacy matters. A lot. If you’re going to do this right, you’re going to need to subscribe to a reputable and fast VPN (virtual private network) provider. For those of you new to VPN’s, they’re a service that both scrambles your internet traffic and ensures that other parties cannot trace you using your internet connection. The good news is that VPN services are both affordable and very easy to install. We strongly recommend using NordVPN. They are fast, affordable and easy to use.
  • The right equipment can make all the difference. Any computer manufactured in the last 3-4 years should be sufficient. Combine this is an HD Webcam (we always recommend the Logitech C920) and a comfortable wireless audio headset with microphone (trust us, it makes all the difference when it comes to Skype phone and/or webcam sex).
  • Subscribe to an internet service provider that features both fast upload and download speeds, as well as high monthly bandwidth allocations. Cybersex can be data intensive, so the higher your bandwidth allocation, the better.
  • Be aware of any items hanging on the walls or standing on any surface that’s in your camera’s field of view. Such items, such as a diploma or picture, could potentially identify you. Audit your surroundings before going online to play.
  • Have fun with your online persona. Change your appearance, wear a wig or crazy glasses. Cosplay is pretty common when it comes to webcam sex, so feel free to experiment with different looks. This can be important for anonymity as well.
  • You don’t have to show your face on camera. Remember, cybersex is all about exploring your sexual fantasies in a safe and non-judgemental environment. Never feel pressured to show more than you’re comfortable with. Show respect, and demand respect in return. Set limits and stay true to them.

Which brings us to today’s topic. Where do you go online to meet cybersex partners who share your sexual preferences and fetishes? There are many adult dating sites to choose from, but which ones are the best when it comes to finding new friends and adult online companions. Below are some suggestions you can consider before you start your search.

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But before we get to them, a few words of warning. When it comes to adult dating sites, age and membership numbers matter. Many newer sites (and even some established ones) try to build up their membership numbers by using deceptive marketing practices. They try to entice new members with chat bots and fake profiles. Most of the time, requests from these fake accounts are pretty easy to spot and represent a clear signal that you should take your business elsewhere. Honest and well-established adult dating sites already have large membership rolls and are very protective of their reputation – they don’t need to resort to deceptive marketing practices to lure in new members. They grow their user base organically because they offer interactions with real people, not fake chat bot driven accounts.

It’s also important to keep your expectations in check. If you’re expecting cyber sex dating services to be full of great looking people with perfect bodies, you’re in for a surprise. The user profile photos you’ll peruse on your favorite adult personals site will pretty much reflect a typical walk down the street. By this, we mean that you’ll encounter people of all shapes and sizes, from many different sexual orientations, who practice a wide variety of kinks and sexual fetishes. This is, after all, a social network for the sexually adventurous. A virtual playground where everyone comes to play, and not judge. As long as you’re comfortable with that reality, you’ll have a great time. But if you’re looking for perfect women (or men) with pornstar bodies, you’ll probably be better served by a traditional webcam sex site.

Keep in mind that building a network of cybersex friends takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight. And that’s a good thing. If you’re like me, the journey is sometimes as much fun as the destination. Take your time and engage people who share your sexuals likes. They might be a match. They might not. Sometimes, they’ll even refer you to a friend who might have more in common with you. Point is, there are so many amazing people to meet in the cybersex world, there’s no need to try to meet all of them on day one. Over a period of weeks and months, you’ll probably meet dozens of new play partners. Some will enjoy text chat, others video chats, or even phone sex over Skype. The important thing is to have fun exploring and sharing your sexuality with others who are there for the exact same reason.

Another reason you’ll want to deal with a reputable adult dating site is because subscribers require verified accounts before they can interact with other members. This offers a degree of age verification, which is very important. You always want to make sure that you’re only playing with consenting adults. If your new online friend appears younger that he/she claims, best move along and look elsewhere. Don’t take any unnecessary risks.

Crafting a perfect adult dating profile – cybersex edition

Before you begin exploring adult dating sites, we strongly recommend you first create an adult dating profile. This will not only save you time once you sign up for an account, but it will also help you identify what you’re truly seeking. A successful dating profile should not only focus on what you’re seeking, but also what you’re offering to potential suitors.

Here’s an example of an effective cyber sex dating profile:


I’m a single, down to earth male, 38 years old with an average body. I stand 5’11” tall and weigh 180 pounds. I have a good sense of humor and love to socialize with other open minded adults.

I joined this service to meet others who enjoy cyber sex. Specifically, I’m seeking to meet women who would enjoy either text chat or intimate conversations over Skype. Should the chemistry be right, I would be open to video chats if they can be held in an anonymous manner. Do note that I’m not seeking a real life sex encounter – I’m only interested in online play.

I have several sexual fetishes I wish to explore with the right female partner. I can be either dominant or submissive, but I must confess to a preference for the latter. I enjoy performing, being watched, and taking orders. I guess this would make me the perfect CFNM partner for the right woman. I have a creative imagination and am open to exploring various kinks. I also enjoy engaging in intimate conversations over Skype.

I’m seeking to meet open minded women who love to explore the outer reaches of their sexual boundaries in a respectful and non-judgmental manner. My preference is for educated women in the 25-55 age group who are sexually confident and playful. I also prefer people who share my average looks and body type.

In return, I’m offering to be a well spoken, respectful, yet playful online friend with whom you can explore your deepest sexual desires. I’m all about cultivating an exciting and ongoing cyber sex relationship with the right person.

If this sounds interesting or intriguing to you, please get in touch. Let’s get to know each other and see where the chemistry leads.

Best regards,


This sample dating profile covers all the right bases. It lays out clear expectations, while not over promising. It also sets a comfortable tone that’s not too pushy or aggressive. It’s a profile that’s sure to attract women who meet the described criteria.

How to choose the right cyber sex dating service

Here are two great adult dating sites to consider. Both feature an active user base with many members seeking cybersex partners.

This is probably the best dating site to find active cybersex practitioners. AdultFriendFinder’s user base is made up of millions of real members from all over the world. They are considered the world’s largest sex dating site, but in reality, the service is more of a social network for sexually active adults. And that’s a good thing because not only can you search traditional user profiles, but you can also participate in user groups dedicated to just about any sexual fetish. I’m not going to go into details of how these communities function, as that would be beyond the scope of this article, but I will refer you to this blog post if you wish to gain a deeper understanding of how adult user groups function on AdultFriendFinder.

How to find local sex parties using AdultFriendFinder user groups

You may also find the following AdultFriendFinder review useful:

Comprehensive Video Review of AdultFriendFinder

The nice thing about AdultFriendFinder is that you can connect with fellow members using your computer webcam so you can interact without having to leave the site. Do note that the site no longer supports chats using the FLASH client software. That feature has been discontinued due to security concerns. While the on-site communications tools, including their built-in instant messaging tool, are pretty good, we recommend taking your online play off-site using Skype. It simply offers a better cybersex experience, especially when used with an audio headset and microphone.

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CamPlayFriends is another great cyber sex site with a well-established user base. The site features members from all over the world with an emphasis on photo and video sharing. It was conceived from the ground up to be a meeting place for people who enjoy cyber sex.

The membership tends to be on the exhibitionist side of the sexual spectrum, therefore the site is perfect for voyeurs. But make no mistake, there are lots of members who are eager to watch and be watched. A well-crafted cyber sex dating profile will most certainly attract quality leads from playful men and women.

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The quick fix – hybrid Skype webcam dating services

Another way to find regular Skype sex partners is to use a service that specializes in arranging webcam sex dates for a fee. This is similar to traditional webcam sex services, but with a few caveats.

The first is that you’ll probably be connecting with women who are not professional webcam models, but rather stay at home moms or college students looking to earn a few extra dollars in their spare time. In a certain sense, you might even think of it as kind of a virtual sugar daddy type of arrangement. These type of regular encounters can lead to a degree of intimacy that one doesn’t experience with traditional webcam sex services.

The second caveat is that while you’ll probably pay a per minute rate for any encounters you arrange, the rate is usually much lower than those of traditional webcam sex sites. Expect average rates to be between $1 to $2 per minute. Paying $30-$60 for a half hour webcam date isn’t extravagant by any means, but it certainly isn’t as cheap as a membership to a reputable service such as AdultFriendFinder. But on the flip side, you will find potential webcam sex partners much quicker using hybrid webcam sex sites.

So which sites do we recommend for easy arrangements and discreet webcam sex encounters? The two top sites on our list are SkyPrivate and CamContacts.

SkyPrivate is a comprehensive directory of amateur webcam models who connect exclusively using Skype. The service is very easy to use. You simply install their client software on your computer and connect with any model of your choosing. Time tracking and billing are handled by SkyPrivate, therefore your credentials are never shared with the model, and the model’s real name is never shared with the client. You can play with as many girls as you wish using the funds from a single account. Great rates, privacy and an amazing selection of women to choose from. It’s the perfect service to meet Skype sex partners in a discreet fashion.

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CamContacts is very similar to SkyPrivate, but with a few important differences. The first is that you don’t use Skype to connect with the models. The service provides its own web-based video chat software. The good news is that the chat software is pretty good and works equally well from both desktop and mobile computers. The service lets you browse model profiles from a free account, but a credit card verification is required before you can engage the girls in their free video chat rooms. This is actually a benefit for both the model and the client. The models don’t have to waste time with unverified clients and trolls, and clients get better access to free chats where they can take their time and get to know a model before engaging in a more intimate, fee-based encounter.

Like SkyPrivate, you simply add money to your CamContacts account which you can then use to connect with as many girls as you wish. The service also offers incredible value, with many models connecting for as little as $1 per minute.

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With so many cybersex services to choose from, it can sometimes be difficult to find a product that’s just right for you. We hope you found this article helpful in your search for the perfect Skype chat partner.

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